Hopeless.

The child is wrapped in suffering. Constricting fear binds her chest; her thoughts vibrate with inescapable tension: Relationships only lead to pain. Trust is a figment, a lie adults use to manipulate you.

So she turns off that part of her brain, severing her ability to form those dangerous connections. 

As she emotionally recedes, darker, baser mental functions surge forward.

Fight-or-flight becomes her new normal. Panic is a daily companion. There is no hope, no light at the end of the tunnel, no bright future to plan; all that matters is surviving the next five minutes, and then the next. 

There is no hope. There is only survival.

Hurt

Suffering sexual abuse is damaging at any age, but for children, it can affect physiological development in a way that has lasting consequences. One study demonstrated that childhood trauma was profoundly detrimental to victims’ ability to make decisions, a difficulty that actually increased as they entered adulthood. Another showed that adults who endured sexual abuse as children actually had measurable differences in their brain’s physical structure.

That damage manifests in different ways in different kids. Many suffer from anxiety or depression. Some are aggressive and belligerent. More often, we see kids closing off emotionally as they isolate themselves from others. Understandably, many have deep-seated trust issues.

As varied as those responses seem, they all stem from the same objective: self-preservation.

Normal activities—like making friends or learning something new—get pushed into the background as mental and physical survival mechanisms take over. 

Addressing that hopelessness takes time. Destiny Rescue’s (an organisation whose rescue work in Cambodia, Thailand and the Philippines Child Rescue helps fund) caseworkers have noted that the trauma of prolonged abuse is not something that can end in a few months or a few years—that the healing process has no timetable.

With that in mind, these patient caseworkers take things slowly.

Manoeuvring through adversity

Our teams have found that a crucial first step in moving beyond traumatic experiences is taking some time to acknowledge them. “We give them a listening ear without judging them,” a caseworker in Kenya said. 

“We let them release it out on us,” Kioni, Destiny Rescue’s current project director there, added.

In group discussions with other survivors, the kids come to realise that they’re not alone in what they’ve felt and endured. They practice breathing exercises to manually reduce the deep-seated survival responses (like panic) that can mentally cripple them.

EMPOWER trauma resilience training teaches children how to move forward in life. The multi-week program isn’t meant to act as a fast track to recovery; instead, it helps kids manoeuvre through the trauma. In finding a way forward, they discover that they don’t have to be paralysed by what they’ve endured. It’s an important step in regaining control.

For hurting children, it’s like unlocking a door to endless possibilities.

Gaining confidence 

Stepping through that door can be a challenge.

Survivors often believe the lie that their worth isn’t based on anything they do or think, but on whatever money their bodies can earn. It takes bravery and confidence to pursue new possibilities in life, confidence that most children don’t have at the time of rescue.

Fortunately, they have some stellar examples to follow.

Survivors in Destiny Rescue’s care are surrounded by people who act nothing like what they’ve come to expect. Male rescue agents and caseworkers are kind, gentle father figures, often cheerfully teaching the kids team sports or unabashedly leading dance sessions. They’re nothing like the selfish, cruel figures who preyed upon their desperation.

But oftentimes, it’s the women who surprise survivors the most.

Female caseworkers aren’t defeated or frightened. Instead, kids see women who confidently work side-by-side with their male teammates. They guide the children without being manipulative and show compassion without appearing weak. They aren’t afraid to smile or laugh or take risks. For traumatised girls, their caseworkers are beacons in the storm, a clear, present hope for a life they couldn’t imagine before.

As a trafficking survivor herself, Kioni stands as a living example of the potential that survivors can aspire to achieve. The leader speaks into survivors’ lives from experience, not only relating to what they’ve endured, but demonstrating what they can become. 

She often compares trauma to a venomous snake when she talks to the kids. Her determination to overcome inspires survivors and caseworkers alike. “We are not going to let that snake bite us again,” she said, speaking of how caseworkers deal with second-hand trauma. “We are going to move on in life, and this makes us happy as people.”

Finding a way forward

That example continues even as children start learning how to achieve financial independence. 

Seeing children come out of their shells is a unique joy for our caseworkers. Faces that once seemed incapable of smiling now light up a room. Kids who once acted years older than they actually were now laugh and dance with other children. Girls who once sat alone and secluded chat with customers in their very own small businesses.

Survivors aren’t just learning to cope; they’re learning to excel in unpredictable circumstances. Kids aren’t just learning to survive; they’re learning to hope again.

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